Everywhere you look there is a positive quote or someone telling you to be strong and it’s going to be okay. I mean we’ve all tried to help someone with some form of positive vibes. At time it can be really helpful. But the reality is sometimes too much positivity is a bad thing. No-one can be positive all the time. In fact, it’s really important to go through the range of emotions we feel rather than just constantly forcing things. I’m here too tell you it’s okay to just be fed up for a moment. It’s human.

You don’t have to be strong or stop crying. Turn down the volume on the people that tell you otherwise. For me, I find it really difficult being upset and there’s nothing worse than finally getting to that point and being told it’ll be okay, don’t cry. I think it’s so important we learn to sit with our feelings for a moment. It’s also important to explore your thoughts. Your feelings are valid regardless of how anyone has made you feel. Equally know that you’re not alone.

Help and support is available right now if you need it. You do not have to struggle with difficult feelings alone. You can call a free helpline including:

Samaritans – for everyone: call 116 123. jo@samaritans.org

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – dedicated to supporting to men. Call 0800 58 58 58– 5pm to midnight every day. Visit the web chat page

Papyrus – for people under 35. Call 0800 068 41 41– 9am to midnight every day 

Text 07860 039967 pat@papyrus-uk.org

Child line – for children and young people under 19. Call 0800 1111 – the number will not show up on your phone bill

YoungMinds 0800 018 2138

No Panic 0844 967 4848

SANE 0300 304 7000

Get Connected 0808 808 4994