To The Person That Feels Like They Don’t Have Life Figured Out

In a world filled with people pretending they have everything figured out, I’m here to tell you it’s all a lie. I know Instagram, LinkedIn and all the other socials make it seem as though you’re the only one who is a little lost. Who likes a bit of this and that and isn’t quite sure about what they want to do with life or where they want to live who doesn’t have this perfect image in their mind that you’re working towards. I’m here to tell you, you’re not alone and if anything it’s a good thing.

From a young age we’re taught we need to thrive in an area either you’re really creative or have a scientific brain or maybe you’re super analytical because you did well on one test and somehow that means you must do something which stems from that which to me doesn’t quite make sense. Too often it isn’t that you even did well but rather your parents or teachers or the movies you watched or the narrative you were fed taught you fit into that box. You’re Asian therefore, you must be a doctor, lawyer, engineer or accountant or something of that nature. You’re from an affluent background therefore, you may perspire something creative or sporty or whatever it is that your family is invested in. You enjoy football therefore you must pursue despite the fact you’ll probably never make it which will ultimately make you miserable. Society continues to tell us we must only have one label and that’s that. If you decide you want to be a dancer but you’re already a lawyer too many it makes 0 sense and you’re discouraged. You should play it safe and stick to your 9 to 5 because that makes people feel like they haven’t made a mistake.

Way too many people are miserable but feel stuck. They feel it’s too late to change paths because they’ve invested so much time and they’ve painted the picture of having it all figured out. When in fact 70% of their friends feel the same way and everyone is a little lost, maybe there’s a lack of feeling fulfilled or maybe it’s just wanting to try new things or being fed up with the mundane reality of doing the same thing. The bottom line is no one has life figured out. As cliche as it sounds it’s a journey and there’s no set destination. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to keep trying things. It’s okay to not know. Just be true to yourself and know you’re not alone.